As we watch our parents’ age, we can struggle with knowing when to step in to assist them and when we might be interfering with their wish for independence.
“We’re fine. There’s no need to worry,” is often the reaction.
Old age is the most difficult phase of life and has to be accepted without choice. We adult children don’t always see when our parents’ need more support. It’s not easy to let go of who they once were, and accept what now is.
It’s important to recognise the signs that indicate more help is needed so they can be supported to continue to live independently, if that is what they wish.
Many adult children feel they are able to take on the full time role of caring for their parent themselves, which is quite a responsibility to do alone. It takes an inordinate cost on a person’s life and health, especially with the additional demands of paid employment and caring for one’s own family. Although rewarding, it can be quite exhausting.
‘Help’ is not an easy subject to discuss with this stoic generation of elder folk who’d rather give than receive.
They are a proud generation, who are used to ‘making do’. Often, it’s only when a crisis happens, like a serious fall, is ‘help’ accepted.
Nevertheless, if we want to avoid the crisis, and keep them living safe and comfortably in their own home, adjustments will need to be made.
Routine is important to elder people. They don’t like to change things, but just like old age, there’s little choice.
In this ebook we have highlighted some of the simple and easy things you can do now to help them continue living safely and comfortably in their own home.